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Nobody Called It ADHD: A Note to the People I Grew Up With (and Poured Drinks With)
If you know me from back home or from my years behind the bar, this one's for you.
Midlife Isn’t a Crisis. But Something Is Changing.
Nobody's buying a red convertible. But you've started asking questions you didn't used to ask, and they're getting louder.
Finding Your Footing: Life, Relationships, and Therapy in Puerto Rico
You can be doing well and still feel overwhelmed. Why anxiety, relationship patterns, and the 2 a.m. thoughts follow us to Puerto Rico, and what therapy in English can do about it.
I Look Fine. Internally, There Are 38 Tabs Open
You're nodding in the meeting. Meanwhile your brain is checking whether you turned off the stove, replaying a song from 2009, and drafting a reply to a text from Tuesday.
Why Do We Keep Having the Same Fight?
It's never really about the dishes. Here's what usually is, and how couples get out of the loop.
The Things We Don’t Talk About: Perimenopause Edition
The chin hair. The waistband. The sudden, total inability to pretend. Everyone talks about the symptoms of perimenopause. Almost nobody talks about the part where you finally start choosing yourself.
Beyond the Same Old Patterns: What Relational Life Therapy Is Actually Like
Three sentences into the argument, someone else takes the wheel. Relational Life Therapy asks who showed up, what they’re protecting, and how to get the grown-up version of you back.
Wait, You Want Me to Stare at a Spot? What Brainspotting Is Actually Like
It sounds like something from between the crystal shop and the juice bar. In practice it’s quieter and more grounded, and it can reach what years of talking have walked politely around.
"Part of Me Wants To": What Parts Work Is and Why It Helps
You already talk about yourself in parts. Explore how parts work helps you understand inner conflict, protective patterns, and the gap between knowing and doing.
Men's Depression Doesn't Always Look Sad
He's not crying. He's working until 10, snapping at his kids, and having three beers where there used to be one. Depression in men often looks like this.
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